All of us are guilty of judging others. And they judge us. Sometimes we judge with positive or non-harming intentions. Unfortunately, our judgment often comes from a negative place most of the time.
Do not judge, and learn to always listen:
We often judge people, because we don’t understand them, we can’t identify with them or simply because we are jealous of them. Firstly if we start to listen to them and just keep in our minds that every one has a story, a background and their own pain, it will be easier to understand them or know that they have reasons they are a certain way, react a certain way and therefore much easier not to judge them and identify with them as normal human beings like you and I.
Judging others have a very negative effect. They can truly hurt someone, perpetuate stereotypes, put negativity into the world and even make you feel worse about yourself.
In order to stop the judging, we should constantly monitor our thoughts, see the positive in people and try to focus on your own life. Rather encourage people and build them up and soon there will be a ripple effect in the world and good things will for sure come your way.
Learning the art of truly listening to people and stop speaking so much is something we have to try and master. The world would be a better place if people listened to each other more. Communication would be real, everyone would say what they want and won’t keep it in their head, conflicts will lessen and people will be more compassionate to each other.
There are so many good reasons to be thoughtfully silent that it’s a wonder we don’t do it more often. We don’t because it’s uncomfortable. It requires that we listen to perspectives with which we may disagree and listen to people we may not like.
Words can often get in the way, silence can help you make connections. Try just listening. Silence is golden, that is a really great saying!
When we listen more, people will connect much easier with us and if you stop talking for a second, people will listen to you more.
We have two ears and one mouth. That means we should listen twice as much as we speak!
Love Mommy xoxo
(Life according to mommy)